So Jack is crying. Aharon hit him with a toy car.
I am thinking about whether or not to take away the car. At first it seems like a simple, easy answer. Clear rule: if you hit with something, it gets taken away.
This is to discourage hitting people with objects. (I've mentioned before that I've discarded the blanket "no hitting" rule because, as it turns out, there is actually plenty of measured hitting as they work out their conflicts.)
Hit with object. Object gets taken away. Child will either a) restrain himself from hitting someone with the object next time because he wants to keep the object or b) will not have the object to hit anyone with. Happy ending either way.
But I'm not sure that is the most effective, efficient way to handle it. I didn't actually see how hard Aharon hit him with the car. It's possible Aharon (age 2) hit him because Jack (age 3) was attempting to wrest it away from him. It's possible that Aharon hit him with a hit calculated to prevent him from attempting to take it away again, but not too hard. It's possible that Jack's cry is a manipulation attempt to get me to intervene, when in fact, it has been handled beautifully and efficiently.
I did, in fact, take away the car, saying the rule, "If you hit someone with something, it gets taken away." Aharon did not object.
But I wonder.