Always, when looking back at the day and the conflict that we had, I would go to my still silent voice and ask myself what I want my children to get from their homeschool experience. And always, always, it wasn't a specific skill or piece of information (beyond the basic reading, writing and arithmetic). It was that I wanted my children to have emotional health and the ability to lead lives filled with wisdom, exploration, joy, and healthy relationships.
I found that pushing my educational agenda was often counter-productive to that goal.
I found myself focusing on my relationship with my kids instead of on schoolwork. I found myself choosing to spend pleasant time with them instead of having them do "work."