I just drove a half hour with my three boys in the back seat. They got along pretty decently, no major fighting. Lots of arguing and tussling. Why don't regular cars come with that limo glass panel that slides open and closed so the driver can't hear what's going on in the back!!
Last week, I took Jack (2nd/3rd grade) to an allergy doctor. The doctor was a frum guy, and when he saw me speaking Hebrew to Jack, he spoke to him in Hebrew, too. Happily, it was one of those situations where my kids actually understand Hebrew--he spoke with a strong American accent.
Upon discovering that Jack was homeschooled, he proceeded to do what so many doctors have done--he began quizzing Jack about what he learns and knows. Jack can actually read and do math somewhat on grade level--which has not always been the case with unschooling. He hesitated about Chumash, and actually blanked on the question "Do you know how to say elephant in Hebrew?" (It's so much easier to translate "pil" than to be asked to produce the Hebrew word...)
I let most of it play out, keeping a pleasant smile on my face. Afterwards, I asked Jack how he liked the doctor (he's introverted, so the major achievement here was looking the doctor in the face and answering his questions in a decibel the doctor could actually hear) and Jack commented on how the doctor asked him so many questions.
And it's true, as a homeschooler, I've found that doctors often ask my children questions. They want to "make sure" my kids are being educated. Or maybe they are just curious. And, since I unschool and the younger grades are frequently spent mostly playing, my kids very often don't know the answers. I've sat there placidly as my children didn't know Judaic bekius, simple math problems, geography, history, science, you name it--and my kids have not known the answer to it.
The only time we had slight vindication was when Chana told the pediatrician she was planning to go to Japan in the summer and he asked, somewhat satirically, how her Japanese was. And he was absolutely floored when she said, "Well, it's mediocre; not as good as I would like, but I hope that the trip will improve it."
I used to be incredibly stressed out when my kids were being quizzed. I worried that they didn't know the answers. I worried homeschooling was failing. I worried they'd feel bad about themselves for not knowing.
As I got more confident about homeschooling, I trusted that it was OK that they didn't know the answers at age 10. I also felt that if I didn't exude stress that they don't know the answers, the kids probably wouldn't be unduly disturbed that they don't know the answers. (And the doctors always told them the answers, so it was kind of like having a mini homeschooling tutoring session thrown in for free in addition to the doctor appointment.)
Sunday, December 24, 2017
When Strangers Quiz Your Children
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comparing,
criticism,
educational goals,
long term goals,
socialization,
tests,
unschooling
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