So how many days has it been since I decided to wait for Chana to ask me to learn? 9 days. I asked her to read a chapter in a book with me and that reminded her that we are in the middle of the Stranger, so we have been reading some of that. But no biology. No navi.
Without spending that hour+ a day with her, I feel like I barely speak to my teen. She spends most of the day in her room, except when she's out.
Instead of trying to get back to schoolwork (even though I love learning Bio with her and I really, really miss it), I'm going to try to focus on connection. When I feel the urge to ask her to learn with me, I'm going to try to channel that urge into seeking a meaningful and positive emotional interaction with her.
I feel like I'm back in the baby steps of unschooling. Can I trust my child? Can I trust unschooling? Will it work? I have to go over and over again in my mind the principle that if she chooses to do it, it will be more interesting and more meaningful; it will take shorter for her to understand it and she will remember it without much effort. Patience.
I asked Elazar if he wanted to learn with me this morning and he said No.